January 18, 2016
The majority of people around me have pretty straight hair. Maybe with a slight bend in them. Straight, sleek hair is desirable and all hair products try to help with that. And that’s why most of the curly humans amongst us only know the straight way to treat hair. Just like I did up until last year.
You have to brush it is what you learn as a kid. You have to straighten the waves first, and then curl them properly, that’s what hair stylists have been telling me. But go figure, that’s just not how curly hair works.
This is a short story about howÂ the Internet helped me convert my scraggly waves into healthy curlsÂ and I am planning on spreading the word. Everybody needs to know this – straight haired mom’s of curly girls, traditional hair stylists who want their curly clients to come back. If you know a curly person, you have to get your friend to try it. Not because how you look is everything that matters, but feeling good about yourself does make a difference. And many curly people do not feel good about their frizzy pouf, but instead fry or brush their hair straight every day.
I’m gonna try to boil this curly recipe down to the basics because there are plenty of other detailed resources online that are all linked to this wiki. Here it goes – Three basic principles of treating wavy, curly, or coily hair better:
- Moisturize the crap out of your hair.
- Shape those ringlets.
- Preserve that shape.
- Use sulfate-freeÂ shampoos. Sulfates dry out the hair a lot and remove all natural oils, causingÂ the scalp to produce even more oils. It takes a few weeks for the scalp to regulate, but afterwards you will get at least an additional day out of your hair without it getting greasy.
- Some curly people even just scrub their scalp with a light conditioner instead of shampoo. It’s called co-washing. Personally, I alternate sulfate free shampoo and co-washing.
- Because sulfate-free shampoos can’t fully remove silicones from the hair, now you’ll also have to find all silicone free hair products for conditioning and styling that rely more on natural oils.
- Use lots of conditioner on the length of the hair. Like tons. So much that your hair feels like slippery wet seaweed before you rinse it out.
- Don’t use a terry cloth towel to dry the hair because it removes too much water. Instead, just blotting it for a minute with a microfiber towel or your husband’s old T-shirt works well. It should still be pretty wet for styling.
- After washing and conditioning, the moisture needs to be locked into the hair. This is where every hair has different needs and you’ll have to find out by experimenting what combination of product works for you. I add leave-in conditioner, and then lots of strong hold gel, because my hair is super porous and otherwise gets very frizzy quickly.
Shape. A.k.a don’t brush!
- Curly hair should never ever be brushed. Especially not when wet or before styling. Wet hair breaks too easily and dry brushed curly hair looks messy, frizzy, and big:
- Curly hair naturally clumps together in strands, don’t try to fight it. Even the artificially curled hair that everybody wants looks like that. See:
- So, don’t try to separate the clumps. There is absolutely no reason to do so.Â Instead, detangle your hair while you wash it and it’s smothered in conditioner. At that point it doesn’t take more than gentle finger-combing to get any tangles out.
- In order to form the clumps, just gently scrunch your completely wet hair with a cotton T-shirt after the shower. Don’t dry it too much. As long as there is still moisture, hair naturally clumps together in strands.
- Again, don’t separate those strands. Apply styling products only by smoothing over the hair and gently scrunching in. No raking or combing in.
Keep the Shape
- Now, to set the curls, I like to wrap my hair in a plop while I’m getting dressed and make my face presentable.
- Afterwards, air drying is usually best.
- When it’s too cold to air dry, you can use a hairdryer with a diffuserÂ to avoid head freeze. The diffuser slows down the air stream to keep the curls in shape and you can apply the warm air directly to the roots to give them extra lift.
- After the hair is 100% dry and depending on what product you used, the hair might be stiff and crunchy from the gel. It looks weird, feels weird, and is weird:
- But that’s how gel works. It forms a cast around the strands to seal the moisture in while it slowly dries without getting frizzy. Then you just scrunch the crunch out and the results are shiny and soft curls.
- Now, the only downside of nice curly hair is that you try to avoid anything that could mess it up. LikeÂ wearing hats, or laying down for naps. But sleeping is inevitable and what works great for longer hair is to put it in a pineapple above your head over night:
- Happy second day hair, happy husband, happy new year:
December 6, 2012
You ask – we answer.
So, how are we doing as a family of four?
- Milo is still great with Felix. He sings him songs, makes him smile, and generally just cares for his wellbeing. When we are driving in the car and Felix starts to cry, Milo tells him ” No weinen, Felix. Gleich da” (“Don’t cry Felix, almost there”) He even said it the other day without Felix in the car when we were approaching our house and then got all concerned when he noticed that Felix wasn’t with us.
- Milo is good with us now too. Right after Felix’s birth he had a major power struggle / tantrum phase. Whether it was related to Felix’s birth or just coincidence (Hello terrible twos!), we will never know. There were weeks when he would do only the opposite of what we said, not follow the simplest request, and throw things on purpose just to provoke us. All day long. Every single chore like a diaper change, getting him to eat, or change his shirt became a power struggle. But somehow we got through it. With lots of patience and persistance. I guess Milo understood that some things in life are non-negotiable and the only place his tantrums will get him is his room.
- We, the parents are close to a burn out. We are basically just functioning. Taking care of babies, work, taking care of errands, sleep for a few hours. Repeat. At the end of the week we really miss spending quality time with each other and somehow manage to squeeze in an hour long in-house date night. But with Felix becoming less needy and Milo being pretty cooperative these days, things are definitely starting to look up.
February 19, 2009
Mein neuer Job: Meine Firma heiÃŸt greeNEWit und wurde vor ca. einem Jahr von drei hypermotivierten jungen Typen gegrÃ¼ndet. Josh ist der Business Manager, der alles finanziell zum Laufen bringt. Jason ist der Marketing / Verkaufstyp, der jedem alles aufschwatzen kann. Matej ist aus der Slovakei und fÃ¼r alle technischen Fragen zustÃ¤ndig. Alle drei sind zwei Jahre jÃ¼nger als ich und ziemlich cool. Wenn sie mich nicht eingestellt hÃ¤tten, wÃ¤ren wir mindestens Freunde geworden. Von daher ist das Arbeitsklima schon mal ziemlich genial. Ich kann meine Zeit mit gleichaltrigen und gleichgesinnten Menschen verbringen und das nennt sich dann Arbeit. Ich bin deren erste Angestellte und mittlerweile schon voll ins GeschÃ¤ftsleben integriert. Meine Meinung zÃ¤hlt genau so viel wie die meiner drei Chefs/Kollegen und ich habe im ersten Monat schon einige Arbeitsprozesse umgekrempelt. (more…)
January 2, 2009
Schon seit einigen Wochen hatte ich eine neue E-Mail im Anschlag und heute bin ich heilfroh, dass ich sie nie verschickt habe. Denn im Gegensatz zu dem, was ich heute schreiben kann, wÃ¤re sie regelrecht depressiv ausgefallen. Vor einem Monat war ich so niedergeschlagen, dass Lincoln mir freiwillig und umsonst tausende Nadeln in die Haut gestochen hat. Nach all dem Drama mit Einwanderung, EingewÃ¶hnung, Joblosigkeit und allgemeiner Wirtschaftsflaute, war ich gegen Anfang Dezember mit meiner ganzen Kraft mal so richtig am Ende. (more…)
October 7, 2008
Dear people, far and nearby – I thank you all so much for making this my best birthday ever. I never believed that I could have such a happy day so shortly after leaving my home country. It is so wonderful to see how all you germans are sending me your hearts, writing me your wishes and calling long distance. In addition I was blessed with another new circle of friends and family this year, that is surrounding me with love and make me feel like I am just at the right place in this whole wide world. And as if all that wasnÂ´t already enough, there is this wonderful husband by my side, whose only goal it is to make me the happiest person ever. And man, does he make me happy!! I love you Ã¼belst, my Liebling! I love you my dearest family! And all of you! Thank you!